I've finished up some tuning work for an attorney friend whose firm handles elder law issues including estate planning, probates, and conservatorships. I've known Julia for over a decade, and I know how careful and intelligent she is.  She's worked with "traditional" families and those of us in untraditional families. If you've put off talking to an attorney because you didn't know a good one to trust, give Julia a call. She's in San Rafael, and that's only15 minutes north of the Golden Gate bridge.